Legal separation and dating
Before you consider getting back into the dating game, you’ll need some real honest talks with your ex. If your ex is hoping for a reconciliation, they’re not going to love the idea of you seeing someone new and dating while separated. You need some time and space to fall in love with yourself again first and foremost.
You can’t date until you’re both sure it’s over and you’re not harboring a secret desire to get back together. Invest in a little pampering time or even a weekend break here and there to give yourself time to heal. If you’re still hoping to get back together with your partner, or still dealing with a lot of sadness and bitterness surrounding the separation, you’re not ready for a trial separation dating. It’s a huge step, and it’s only natural to feel some hesitation.
(If you’re considering a legal separation instead of divorce so that you can keep insurance benefits, check the insurance plan before making the decision.
Some consider a legal separation the same as a divorce for purposes of terminating health benefits.) Excerpted from Nolo’s Essential Guide to Divorce, by Emily Doskow.
Being legally separated is a different legal status from being divorced or married—you’re no longer married, but you’re not divorced either, and you can’t remarry.
Once you’re separated and have made basic agreements about your joint assets and debts, you don’t have to divorce right away.
It’s normal to feel lonely and vulnerable after a divorce, but that isn’t a reason to rush into a new relationship. If you’re just looking for someone to fill the gap left by your ex, you won’t make the best choices for yourself.
If you genuinely like someone, that’s a great reason to start dating while separated.
Dating while separated, but not divorced is a tricky subject.
On one hand, it’s natural to want to find companionship and move on from your marriage.
People choose legal separation instead of divorce because of religious beliefs, a desire to keep the family together legally for the sake of children, the need for one spouse to keep the health insurance benefits that would be lost with a divorce, or simple aversion to divorcing despite the desire to live separate lives.